My transition into motherhood was very emotional. I felt quite isolated and stressed. I was 18 years old and had little support. Her birth was very difficult as were my other two with my sons. I suffered with postnatal depression but during my recovery I found my identity as a woman, a mother, reborn, and embraced my new role. I felt empowered and am now thriving as a mother of 3. I am so proud to be attachment parenting with children aged 5, 4 and 16 months. I never lack the motivation to be the best role model I can be.
My childhood was very disciplined. Not full of good memories, its something I’ve had to come to terms with over the years. Mine and my mother’s relationship has always been quite strained but over the last years has gone from strength to strength. I don’t remember her being loving, affectionate and close. She raised 5 of us singly so I was responsible for caring for my brothers and sisters from a very young age, when she went to work. I have learnt not to ‘put’ on my children or put pressure on them. To let them BE children.
Your Mother, You, Your Children
My relationship has changed with my mother since having my children. It’s grown in strength. She has been supportive at times and she is a doting nanny. She increasingly spends more time with them and I appreciate the bond she has made with them. I try to surround my children with love, security and positive relationships, something I never had. Motherhood is not what I expected, it’s not the stress, mess and toddler tantrums I thought it would be. It’s fun, enchanting and every day I learn something new.